The biggest ally of any school bully is our federal government. It is amusing to see the Obama campaign pounce on a questionable 47 year-old story of a young Mitt Romney supposedly “bullying” a high school classmate. This story is especially suspicious given its timing, since President Obama just publicly supported marriage for same-sex couples.
The Obama administration has made the issue of bullying a centerpiece of his first term. From the Department of Education to the Justice Department, the anti-bullying agenda of the White House has held more of a political tone to satisfy left-wing organizations than actually help bullying victims.
What is the advice from the federal government if a child finds himself/herself being physically assaulted by a classmate on a regular basis? :(bolding is mine)
Look at the kid bullying you and tell him or her to stop in a calm, clear voice. You can also try to laugh it off.
This works best if joking is easy for you. It could catch the kid bullying you off guard.
If speaking up seems too hard or not safe, walk away and stay away.
Don’t fight back. Find an adult to stop the bullying on the spot.
There are things you can do to stay safe in the future, too.
Talk to an adult you trust. Don’t keep your feelings inside. Telling someone can help you feel less alone. They can help you make a plan to stop the bullying.
Stay away from places where bullying happens.
Stay near adults and other kids. Most bullying happens when adults aren’t around.
No wonder our foreign policy includes bowing to tyrants and dictators, releasing Taliban prisoners, and negotiating with the Muslim Brotherhood. Our State Department is full of the same kind of bureaucrats who roam the hallways of our Department of Education. They are government workers who believe that standing up for oneself is never the answer. Is it any wonder there was always opposition that said the United States should not seek out and respond to those who were responsible for the 9/11 attacks?
Of course, this way of thinking for handling school bullies has been around since liberals inundated the public school system well into the 1970’s.
Heaven forbid a child ever stands up to a bully. Fox 31 in Denver reported on April 18 that a 9-year old boy, Nathan Pemberton, was suspended after he stood up to a bully who was beating him up:(bolding is mine)
“One kid kicked me in the back, then punched me in the face. Then I punched him in the face, and then I got in trouble, he says.”
A picture shows the red marks on his face. His parents says about once a week, he’s been coming home from West Elementary School in Colorado Springs saying he’s been bullied. They’re glad he finally decided enough is enough.
“Finally, yeah, we told him, if you have to, if there’s nobody else around, you do what you have to do,” his mother, Deborah Pemberton, says.
A school spokesperson told FOX31 Denver in a statement the district has a “no tolerance student discipline policy. If a student is involved in a physical altercation on school property, they are automatically suspended.”
It goes on to say, “District 11 schools employ many anti-bullying teaching techniques … and none of these methods include violence or retaliation.”
“Well the school had told us and told him as well, just walk away. Walk away, find a teacher,” says Deborah Pemberton. “Well, when those things happened, and he did find a teacher, there was hardly any repercussions.”
States impose feel good anti-bullying measures on school districts, but kids and their parents still find that legislative solutions in state capitol buildings do little for school bullying victims. According to a March 2012 piece at NJ.com, six months after New Jersey established an anti-bullying bill of rights, students and their families were still disappointed with the outcome. The biggest problem was distinguishing what was a bullying incident and what was simply a “conflict.” : (bolding is mine)
One family in Ridgefield Park is now home-schooling their child, after they said school officials did not stop a bully. Another, whose child attends High Point Regional High School in Sussex County, sued school officials and the families of alleged bullies, over bullying that began before the law was enacted.
While local school officials almost universally support the intent of the law, many say implementing it has been arduous.
In Roxbury, where 71 suspected bullying cases were reported since September and 18 confirmed, interim Superintendent James O’Neill called the law a “bureaucratic nightmare” that saps staff time and imposes extra costs, while turning counselors into disciplinarians.
Guidance counselors and teachers face a steep challenge in trying to draw the line between conflict and bullying.
One suspected bullying incident in Roxbury involved two kindergartners fighting over crayons, and another stemmed from two intermediate school students excluding a third from their lunch table. The crayons case was ruled not to be bullying, but the lunch-table incident was, said Roxbury anti-bullying coordinator Phyllis Prestamo.
In the first few months, people were very nervous about reporting, and they reported everything,” Prestamo said. “We really had to have a discussion about what’s the difference between conflict and bullying.”
The Department of Education anti-bullying programs are usually pushed by gay activist groups claiming that federal and state wide legislation is the solution for bullying against homosexual students or students perceived to be gay:(bolding is mine)
Garden State Equality called the new law a “resounding success.” Executive Director Steven Goldstein said the gay rights advocacy group received hundreds of bullying complaints on its hotline in September, but the number later dropped off.
“Not only are complaints fewer, but they’re more easily resolved because of the law,” he said. “There’s not 100 percent compliance by any means, but the trend points to the law making a massive difference.”
The state Department of Education was criticized for not providing enough guidance to districts, but DOE officials noted that new guidelines were issued in December and a model policy released last April. In addition, numerous DOE-run training sessions were held.
“We have seen a heightened awareness and importance placed on initiatives to decrease bullying as a result of the law,” said department spokeswoman Allison Kobus.
So what happens if this new anti-bullying law and training still does not work? The state of New Jersey will do what it does best, just like any other government. It will make more legislation:
The New Jersey School Boards Association and the state’s school superintendents and business administrators associations recently surveyed school officials to identify areas in the law that could be improved through legislation.
The main problem, though, with government anti-bullying programs, legislation, or philosophy of “let yourself get beaten up” appears to teach kids that those in authority do not want children to physically defend themselves in dire situations or bother school authorities with their problems, even though they are told to do so. Kids are obviously puzzled by this paradox and many believe it will eventually end by the time they are adults. Unfortunately, it does not.